But the realities and weights of life soon set in, and it seems that Mina must pay the emotional toll for everyone's demands. The consistent failure to keep all parts of her life in harmony is what is so simultaneously compelling and heartbreaking. The pressures applied by her Pakistani parents are constantly at odds with Mina's desire to live in a more Norwegian (read: Western) fashion where she can date any man she chooses, wear what she wants to wear, or even pursue her own dreams of being an actress. Haq's version of womanhood is fraught with the real pressures of young motherhood: watching Mina attempt to blend the lives of Jesper and Felix into a seamless unit is tense, the specter of clashing personalities lurks ominously in the background.
At one point, we watch Mina leave Felix at home alone so she can go out and spend time with Jesper. As a flimsy safeguard, she leaves Felix a phone to call her in case of emergency. Mina's naïve attempts at responsible parenting are at odds with her desires to be a young woman in a budding relationship. Being culture-bound is another major theme here, with Haq showcasing the expectations of traditional Pakistani womanhood consistently barring Mina from pursuing her own version of happiness. Her mother's incessant nagging about finding a husband and honouring her family constantly undermines Mina's own sense of self. In the end, I Am Yours wonders just who precisely Mina belongs to and where her own agency lies. If one were to hazard a guess, it may just be that she belongs to the realm of heartbreak.
Allie Gemmill | @alliegem